How do you think about situations?

I know we all approach issues differently. We all think in our own ways and deal with issues in our select styles. I've noticed that I am the kind of person who tends to act before thinking. I often let my other stresses cloud my judgment and lash out before ever thinking the situation over. It is a sucky way to be and I am definitely rethinking it. The last thing you want to do is allow emotions to over rule your reason. Emotions are valuable assets that can be super special to share. They are something that let's others know when you are really feeling something, whether it's excitement or even pain. Reason, however, is just as important. When we stand to reason we lay out the pros and cons of a situation in our minds. We don't allow our personal ideals and thoughts clog the interpersonal relationship with someone else. ..or at least we shouldn't.

The way we feel is unavoidable. The way we act on it is avoidable. Everyone has standards of living and hopes that those standards remain kept when in a friendship or a relationship. However, everyone is different in their ideals, and we should always reciprocate how someone lives their lives. You can only hope for so much reciprocation and then it turns to working things out. Everyone cares to an extent, but people want to live how they see is right for them. If you live oppositely then everything comes down to compromise.

If you cannot repspect one another for who they are then there is nothing you can do.

The middle ground is not always black and white, it's often painted grey. What you find uncomfortable may be a different idea for the other person. This is where compromise comes into play but it isn't always easy. You must be willing to take the other person's view into account. If you remain unmoving in your thoughts the other person will only become more and more stressed, thinking their views do not matter. Everything comes down to how willing you are to listen and sympathize--It's how a relationship lives. But, at the same time, you have to let the other person live their own life and make their own mistakes...within reason of course. If you are dead set against something, they should reciprocate. But if it is something grey, even if you feel it isn't good for them, let them make their own mistakes and they'll realize you trust them all at the same time. There is no use in freaking out when it isn't something detrimental. However, if it is something that you are known to be uncomfortable with, then they should know where the limits of your comfort-ability lines lie.

In the end it comes down to this: if you love some one or care about someone- don't be afraid to do so wholeheartedly. Sometimes, it's almost healthy to have a small wall up. If you give all of yourself too quickly then it makes it harder to learn more about that person as you grow together. Leaving a little mystery keeps things fresh and new. Don't doubt the other person and try as hard as you can to eventually let insecurities go...even if your past tends to make you think otherwise.

Things like ex's and your significant other being hit on by others...it shouldn't be an arduous process. As long as they make it clear cut with the person hitting on them that it's uncomfortable for them to say things like that because they are in a relationship then it's fine. If it comes to the point where it is very uncomfortable and just too much, they should just know that hanging out with them may not be the best idea. Same goes for you. Compromise is important and an large element of a relationship.

Just love with all you've got, trust with all you have, but be your own person too and they'll respect you that much more.