This Week In History

This week will probably go down in history as one of the craziest for college campuses.

My heart goes out to everyone affected by loss and tragedy on multiple college campuses. The loss of a loved one is never easy and the level of cruelty in this world is insane.

My birthday may have been on Tuesday but that's not what will be resonating in my mind about the past days. I've done a lot of thinking.

When we show our love for our friends, family, and love interests we should do so wholeheartedly. Never take them for granted because they could be gone in a blink of an eye.

As a student of Seton Hall University I am just shocked that we cannot stop things from happening at college. No one takes the value of human life seriously. No one realizes that every person you see means something deep to someone else. That, no matter what revenge you may take upon someone, you are also harming those who care about them. It is those loved ones you will have to deal with.

Something else I've noticed: this world has so much unnecessary hate that it is ridiculous. People should not have to be afraid of being who they are. Since when is the idea of privacy and respect so hard to understand?

Here are two poems I wrote today based off of these ideas:

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Fireflight

When you shut those eyes

And close off the world

From harming your humanity,

The globe continues to spin.

They'll kick up ash

That sprouts fire

Breeding that darkness 'round you,

Til you just can't win.

Don't lose who you are

To the traps that bind you-

Holding your soul

Beneath the ground.

You are limitless

And skyward sent-

And the universe shall find you

Profound.

 

bEGOne

We are made whole.

Fill us with dreams-

Fill us with love-

Fill us with life-

You are no better than I.

When the world around us

Spits its poison

I hope you stand by my side,

For nature may show no prejudice,

It is the ego of humanity which decides

My fate.

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Articles to look at:

Seton Hall Incident

Pace University Incident

Rutgers Incident

University of Texas Incident

California Incident 

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Quote of the Day:

 “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

 Maria Robinson 

Posting a Poem to cover the weekend

My birthday is coming and I have a poem I want to post. I found it in an old notebook and want to post it up. Goes out to a special someone haha.

Sleep Well

Like the moon gone asunder,

Wolves scratch at the door

I'll lay here and hold you

Til they scratch no more.

Shadows stretching up the wall,

But I'll love you

Embrace you

And erase them all.

How do you think about situations?

I know we all approach issues differently. We all think in our own ways and deal with issues in our select styles. I've noticed that I am the kind of person who tends to act before thinking. I often let my other stresses cloud my judgment and lash out before ever thinking the situation over. It is a sucky way to be and I am definitely rethinking it. The last thing you want to do is allow emotions to over rule your reason. Emotions are valuable assets that can be super special to share. They are something that let's others know when you are really feeling something, whether it's excitement or even pain. Reason, however, is just as important. When we stand to reason we lay out the pros and cons of a situation in our minds. We don't allow our personal ideals and thoughts clog the interpersonal relationship with someone else. ..or at least we shouldn't.

The way we feel is unavoidable. The way we act on it is avoidable. Everyone has standards of living and hopes that those standards remain kept when in a friendship or a relationship. However, everyone is different in their ideals, and we should always reciprocate how someone lives their lives. You can only hope for so much reciprocation and then it turns to working things out. Everyone cares to an extent, but people want to live how they see is right for them. If you live oppositely then everything comes down to compromise.

If you cannot repspect one another for who they are then there is nothing you can do.

The middle ground is not always black and white, it's often painted grey. What you find uncomfortable may be a different idea for the other person. This is where compromise comes into play but it isn't always easy. You must be willing to take the other person's view into account. If you remain unmoving in your thoughts the other person will only become more and more stressed, thinking their views do not matter. Everything comes down to how willing you are to listen and sympathize--It's how a relationship lives. But, at the same time, you have to let the other person live their own life and make their own mistakes...within reason of course. If you are dead set against something, they should reciprocate. But if it is something grey, even if you feel it isn't good for them, let them make their own mistakes and they'll realize you trust them all at the same time. There is no use in freaking out when it isn't something detrimental. However, if it is something that you are known to be uncomfortable with, then they should know where the limits of your comfort-ability lines lie.

In the end it comes down to this: if you love some one or care about someone- don't be afraid to do so wholeheartedly. Sometimes, it's almost healthy to have a small wall up. If you give all of yourself too quickly then it makes it harder to learn more about that person as you grow together. Leaving a little mystery keeps things fresh and new. Don't doubt the other person and try as hard as you can to eventually let insecurities go...even if your past tends to make you think otherwise.

Things like ex's and your significant other being hit on by others...it shouldn't be an arduous process. As long as they make it clear cut with the person hitting on them that it's uncomfortable for them to say things like that because they are in a relationship then it's fine. If it comes to the point where it is very uncomfortable and just too much, they should just know that hanging out with them may not be the best idea. Same goes for you. Compromise is important and an large element of a relationship.

Just love with all you've got, trust with all you have, but be your own person too and they'll respect you that much more.

First of my Deep Posts- This is me

Sometimes life is just so confusing. We try to be the best we can be and we still find ourselves slipping. No matter what happens we can only stand up and continue on no matter if it hurts to do so. There are times in life when giving up seems to be an easy way out, but consequences will occur no matter what choice is made. Those in our lives always have an idea of how you should be, which tends to be slightly different from reality. No matter what, it is best to be true to yourself and those you love.

I want to address my life from an outsider's perspective-I know this is a different kind of blog than usual but it is necessary. I am an open book and I've always been honest about who I am. Writing things down helps me realize just exactly who I am and come to a conclusion on what I can do better and what are my strong points. I am utterly faithful to my friends, family, and relationships. We can always get into arguments but I am always honest in an argument and will back myself up. I can be self-criticizing to end an argument and give myself the blame for the sake of disagreeing. I tend to put relationships as first priority along side school which actually benefit each other. If I fall for you, I fall hard. If you hurt me, I hurt pretty deep. I often use past experiences in my life to judge how I react to things now, but I'm trying to change that. I can say that I am not someone who is a pass up. I do think I have something to offer and that I can love unconditionally- which I do now. When I'm in a relationship I'm in it for the long haul. I am often naive and can be ignorant to some things but I am generally a happy person. I always look to the positives even when it's hard to see it. My personality is complex- I think to myself A LOT, and think I'm always right, as we all do. I am who I am and I can be spontaneous, loud, exciting, but worrisome. I am always thinking about my morals and how important to me my relationships are. I am very opinionated and hold my ground in conversations. I love attention, and I can become emotionally invested in another person- which also means I'm easily broken. I have a good head on my shoulders and know what I want out of life, even if it takes me a while to get there. I'm tend to be the life of the party and like to show everyone a good time while still thinking about everything semi-logically. I've been broken, I've been down, but I am myself now because of it. I have changed a lot- my friends could tell you how I used to be "just another asshole" and at one point-lost inside myself. I may be the kind of person who needs someone now, but it's who I am and I'm happy with who I've become.

What I need YOU to know is that I love you. You know who you are. I give you 100% of me and nothing less. You are everything I could have hoped for and more-we could fight or anything and I'd never feel any less. It's hard to fight with you of course but I am so willing to work it all out which I think is a decent quality. You have made me realize how happy I can be.

To everyone who has ever been or is close to me- I truly thank you for making me who I am because of you all. Without knowing you I would still be a lost middle school kid who is afraid of being left out.

My life is measured in the people who move me along the way. I tend to think that my aspirations, while still being mine, are never possible without others being a part of my life.

I've been through a lot of loss, gain, and unmoving ground in life- but I wouldn't ask for it to be different.

This is the first of my deeper posts. I hope you enjoyed it.

Taking the Heat

Sometimes, don't you just feel like the heat outside is burning through you rather than onto your skin? The humidity seems to seep inside you and cook you like a microwave. Walking outside of your house has you sweating in just seconds and you feel like you need to change your clothes. Make sure you keep hydrated and wear loose, light colored clothing. the thing is, your body is already warm inside and your body is releasing sweat to maintain body temperature and not overheat. You need to replenish the lost water or you'll dehydrate and get dizzy. Continue this and you could pass out from exhaustion.

A good way to test and see if you are dehydrated is by pulling on the skin on the back of your hand. If it quickly snaps back and becomes smooth you are fine. If it moves slowly or not at all then you are dehydrated and should drink a glass or two of water. The lack of the total of needed water allows your skin to become less elastic. Eight glasses a day is the recommended amount of healthy water intake.

 I'm thirsty now. Haha.

Stressing-Out the Options

When you take hard classes, have detrimental things happen in life, or just have a lot on your shoulders you'll be under stress. Everyone feels it...and you know exactly what I mean.

• You don't want to get out of bed
• You smack the alarm and sleep in late
• Rush because you don't want to be late for school
• Get to class and realize you wish you were able to not be there
• Skip lunch cuz you're too busy
• Hoping you can sleep when you get back but realizing you have meetings to go to and homework to do
• You procrastinate hard core
• Rush to finish everything
• Fall asleep at 2 or 3 to get up at 8
• Cycle begins again
• Now add friends, family, grades, clubs, sports, relationships, etc. And you're ready to explode.

Stress is what becomes the open door to falling into a pit that you have to drag yourself out of. So do something to de-stress! Get up and feel good!

1. Go for a run
2. Write your feelings on paper
3. Watch a funny video
4. Read something you're interested in
5. Always eat breakfast
6. Eat little and often to prevent glucose swings
7. Drink lots of water
8. Limit alcohol intake and caffine intake
9. Punch a pillow
10. Play some music and dance around
11. Have positive people around you
12. ETC....

Let me know what you think is a good way to destress! =]